"The closeness delivers what you haven’t had in a long time: orientation. You know where you are. You know what you want. You know when something’s going to want too many spoons." <-- Orientation is the PERFECT word for this! Ever since I started trusting myself, I've been able to look at situations and understand what they are at their core, what they'll do to me, and how I therefore need to respond. And every time I'm proven right, I get a little more sure. ALL of the love for this beautiful encapsulation of it! 💖
Yes, orientation IS the word! That’s exactly what it feels like to me too. Once I started trusting my own read, things stopped being murky. I can see what something is, what it’ll ask of me, when it’s a no. I appreciate you sharing how it’s been true for you.
> There’s a difference between having a mind and living inside it. ... For a long time, you lived beside it, ahead of it, against it. You learned skill, control, distance. They kept you functioning.
Oof, Ang - so true, and how I lived for 50 years... And also the challenges of living inside our own minds, but that is so much truer - thank you for reminding me 💛
"You know when something's going to want too many spoons"
That is a big learning step, knowing when to hit pause and let the thing sit. Meanwhile it's not out of mind but random looks begin to figure out how it can be done with fewer spoons while you energize creating a few more spoons. The net result is it eventually gets done and you have more spoons for other things.
"The closeness delivers what you haven’t had in a long time: orientation. You know where you are. You know what you want. You know when something’s going to want too many spoons." <-- Orientation is the PERFECT word for this! Ever since I started trusting myself, I've been able to look at situations and understand what they are at their core, what they'll do to me, and how I therefore need to respond. And every time I'm proven right, I get a little more sure. ALL of the love for this beautiful encapsulation of it! 💖
Yes, orientation IS the word! That’s exactly what it feels like to me too. Once I started trusting my own read, things stopped being murky. I can see what something is, what it’ll ask of me, when it’s a no. I appreciate you sharing how it’s been true for you.
> There’s a difference between having a mind and living inside it. ... For a long time, you lived beside it, ahead of it, against it. You learned skill, control, distance. They kept you functioning.
Oof, Ang - so true, and how I lived for 50 years... And also the challenges of living inside our own minds, but that is so much truer - thank you for reminding me 💛
Yes, it does suck sometimes.
The audio is always so awkward for me ❤️
"You know when something's going to want too many spoons"
That is a big learning step, knowing when to hit pause and let the thing sit. Meanwhile it's not out of mind but random looks begin to figure out how it can be done with fewer spoons while you energize creating a few more spoons. The net result is it eventually gets done and you have more spoons for other things.